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by Catdancing on 4/27/2008 at 2:30 pmin category Tell Your Story

I have posted on here a couple times with out response. I have virtually no family though I am finding out what a great bunch of people I work with. I just had my left sided modified radical mastectomy this past Wed. and told my cancer was more extensive than thought. Now it looks like I may have to also have radiation. My port a cath is soon to be put in for my chemo. I am gathering cute chemo hats and several bandanas, FIgure if I have all colors I can be in any gang I want.........I think I will pick the pink gang. I wish I had people to talk to about this. Lonesome is no fun at all.

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I am pretty much the same. I have no brothers or sisters. My mother is deceased and my father lives over 3000 miles from me. I am lucky though I do have a very nice boyfriend who says he will go through this with me but I am still afraid of what it does to a relationship. I am still at the beginning of the road here with diagnosis and just getting a biopsy so I don't know have any other experience with the other phases to provide input. Except that I know it is difficult because I took care of my mother when she had lung cancer and had her lung taken out. She went through chemo etc so I am familiar with the what went on with her.

Good luck and keep writing to us!

by iluv2yorkies on 5/12/2008 at 8:53 am

What do you want to talk about? I didn't experience what you are going through but I am willing to listen and chat...HUGS!

by sporty03 on 5/7/2008 at 2:28 pm

Talk away, I was just recently diagonsed with ductal carcinoma in-situ high grade and I am facing a double mastectomy at the end of May, I am freaked out, I just can't seem to get past the world breast cancer much less anything else.

by mysticthunder on 5/5/2008 at 5:54 pm

Hi I am new to this site. I had my chemo first wish I had gotten a port - would have been much easier. I am now waiting to have mastectomy. Mine is on my left side also but I have decided to have bi-lateral mastectomy. Because mine has been very hard to find and hasnt really shown up on any of the films. My family is my best support - but even with them around there are still times I feel alone. Sometimes they just dont understand. Please contact me anytime if you want to talk. I just take it one day at a time - right now. Please take care.

by PR on 5/4/2008 at 7:31 pm

I too, have cancer in my left brrast. After a lumpectomy I was told that I still needed a complete mastectomy. On March 7 I had a mastectomy with a tummytuck reconstruction. The tummytuck pain was worse than the cancer. It's been two months and the pain won't go away. My chemo has been delayed because of my slow healing.

Alone is a very sad feeling. I have nine sisters, three brothers, a daughter, grandchildren and many other relatives and friends that have been here for me, yet I still have that very alone feeling. Before cancer, I never felt that way. To help the alone feeling I watch a lot of movies and pray to focus on God rather than myself.

by gwenga13 on 5/4/2008 at 7:02 am

Good Luck with everything, we will listen and pray for you...
Just write it out, we're here going thru the same thing,
Take care,

by Photoshopmom on 5/2/2008 at 7:44 pm

I think we all feel pretty alone on this path at times (if not ALL the time!), even those who are fortunate enough to have lots of loved ones around, probably because no two of us have exactly the same BC story and we all have to make our own decisions (so many decisions!) and come to terms with them on our own. At least we have the internet to do research and to have access to a site like this one where we can reach out to ask someone to throw us a lifeline. I can't even begin to imagine what women did years ago. It must've been so much more frightening and much, much lonelier. Keep posting as your treatment progresses and let us know how you're doing...or to just vent if need be!...or message me any time...it's nice to "get mail"!

by A&R'sMommy on 4/30/2008 at 4:43 pm

I'm sorry you feel alone. Although I have friends and family supporting me, at times I feel alone also. I just recently lost my hair. Still trying to get over that. I've found that the scarf with baseball cap combo is my best bet. I had a left modifed radical mastectomy too. I'm now going thru chemo. I wish you all the luck. Please message me ANYTIME! I check pretty much every day.

by Ros on 4/29/2008 at 1:39 pm

I'm so sorry if I hadn't written...I'll pray for you. Be strong. It does get better. If you ever need to chat...message me. You can talk to me anytime.
Love and thoughts your way.

by wannabestrong on 4/28/2008 at 11:05 pm

Cat! I had all colors of bandanas and hats also. Mostly in the purple family..I felt I was 'royality'! I am glad you are getting a port. I had one and was so happy I did, I hated getting poked and jabbed to find veins.
Sorry you didn't get any responses. It is hard to go thru this let alone without family( I know that one too)
You may talk to me anytime..send me a message and I will reply.
May you be blessed.
Cindie.

by My HEART is in Michigan on 4/27/2008 at 4:26 pm

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