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WELL TODAY WAS THE WORST DAY EVER SO FAR..MY MOM HAD HER FIRST CHEMO TREATMENT FRIDAY AUG. 31 SHE FELT OK THAT NIGHT, SATURDAY SHE WAS A BIT ICKY BUT NOT TERRIBLE, SUNDAY ABOUT 1AM I GUESS SHE STARTED PUKING, AROUND 12:30PM SUNDAY AFTERNOON MY GRANDMA CALLED ME, I HEARD MY MOM IN THE BACKGROUND SAYING SHE WAS DONE SHE COULDN'T BE SICK ALL THE TIME, SHE CAN'T HANDLE IT AND SHE WAS NOT GOING ANYMORE. WELL MY GRANDMA CALLED THE ONCOLOGIST AND HE SAID SHE NEEDED FLUIDS AND A NAUSEA MED THE PILLS SHE HAS WERE NOT WORKING OR SOMETHING...WELL THEY GOT TO THE HOSPITAL BEFORE ME..WHEN I WALK IN SHE STARTS CRYING AND SCREAMING SHE IS DONE AND BEGGING ME TO NOT MAKE HER GO TO ANYMORE TREATMENTS, SHE DOESN'T WANT TO FEEL LIKE THIS ANYMORE PLEASE JUST LET HER GO HOME TO GOD AND DIE IN PEACE..THEN SHE LOOKS AT MY GRANDMA AND SAYS SHE KNOWS MY GRANDMA DIDN'T BRING HER INTO THIS WORLD TO WATCH HER GO THROUGH THIS...THIS WENT ON FOR 45 MINS...WHEN THE NURSE CAME IN TO GET BLOOD AND PUT IN THE IV THEY USED THE PORT LINE AND SHE SCREAMED LIKED A CHILD WHEN THEY POKED THE PORT SPOT...SHE WAS FRANTIC...THE DOCTOR CAME IN AND ASKED WHAT WAS THE DEAL BECAUSE IT SHOULDN'T BE THAT BAD TO USE THE PORT...I THINK IT WAS THAT SHE WAS EXHAUSTED AND DIDN'T FEEL WELL AND HER WHOLE BODY WAS FEELING EVERYTHING BETTER...WHAT DO I DO...IF SHE WANTS TO QUIT DO I JUST SET BACK AND LET HER OR DO I TRY TO TALK TO HER..I JUST FEEL LIKE NOTHING I SAY IS GOING TO MAKE HER FEEL ANY BETTER...I'M NOT MAKING HER DO ANYTHING BUT I DON'T WANT HER TO DIE...I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK...TODAY WAS THE WORST FEELING I HAVE EVER HAD BECAUSE I HAD NO WORDS TO SAY TO HER...A WEEK AGO SHE WAS MAD BECAUSE SHE WANTED THE TREATMENT STARTED AND NOW SHE WANTS TO QUIT...ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT..THERE ARE NO SUPPORT GROUPS IN MY AREA THEY ARE ALL A HOUR AWAY..SO THERE IS NO ONE TO TALK TO HER JUST US AND I DON'T THINK I'M ENOUGH.
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Want to leave a comment? Login or Register now!Someone has to be the adult the 'bad guy' who says no you are not giving up and you will not die.
Emotional fits can become a habit with cancer patients - she needs to get busy on what she is going to do to help you help her and your grandmother help her live!
I know this because my mom has cancer too.You are enough! She is lucky to have you because she are her hope! You are the fighter that she needs to be. Cancer patients can become very immature and childlike. Someone has to be the adult the 'bad guy' who says no you are not giving up and you will not die. Emotional fits can become a habit with cancer patients - she needs to get busy on what she is going to do to help you help her and your grandmother help her live! I know this because my mom has cancer too.
I wish your mom all the luck in the world, I know it's not easy, but she will get through it! Don't let your mom give up! She just needs to talk to her oncologist or the oncology nurses about getting plenty of anti-nausea medications. Not only was I given anti-nausea meds during my chemo through my port, but I took Amend before my apointment and the day after, as well as two other types of anti-nausea pills whenever I felt the nausea coming on. Also, if it hurts when they access her port there is a topical cream containing lidocaine that she can apply an hour before her treatments that will numb the area and she won't feel the needle at all. I used it before all of my treatments after I found out about it, and it just made it a little more tolerable, plus it also helped me not feel the slight burning sensation from chemo going through my veins. Tell her to ask her doctor for a prescription. I wish your mom all the luck in the world, I know it's not easy, but she will get through it!
I was the same way after the first one except for the throwing up i was really lucky the meds thay gave me prevented that, it is a hard thing to grasp, but she is not the only one going through this tell her to email me, yes everything about it sucks after the first one i just said i dont want to do this just let me die, second one down and now i know what to expect...breast cancer is curable....others r treatable...blueydotson@aol.com she is not alone it sucks and u r not alone either' wanda:
I was the same way after the first one except for the throwing up i was really lucky the meds thay gave me prevented that, it is a hard thing to grasp, but she is not the only one going through this tell her to email me, yes everything about it sucks after the first one i just said i dont want to do this just let me die, second one down and now i know what to expect...breast cancer is curable....others r treatable...blueydotson@aol.com she is not alone it sucks and u r not alone either' wanda
she doesn't like email it takes to long her email is juliedonahoo@yahoo.com i will ask if i can give you her number maybe you can talk to her sometime we live in missouri i have tried to find a support group for her but the closest one is like a hour away I was the same way after the first one except for the throwing up i was really lucky the meds thay gave me prevented that, it is a hard thing to grasp, but she is not the only one going through this tell her to email me, yes everything about it sucks after the first one i just said i dont want to do this just let me die, second one down and now i know what to expect...breast cancer is curable....others r treatable...blueydotson@aol.com she is not alone it sucks and u r not alone either' wanda: I was the same way after the first one except for the throwing up i was really lucky the meds thay gave me prevented that, it is a hard thing to grasp, but she is not the only one going through this tell her to email me, yes everything about it sucks after the first one i just said i dont want to do this just let me die, second one down and now i know what to expect...breast cancer is curable....others r treatable...blueydotson@aol.com she is not alone it sucks and u r not alone either' wanda she doesn't like email it takes to long her email is juliedonahoo@yahoo.com i will ask if i can give you her number maybe you can talk to her sometime we live in missouri i have tried to find a support group for her but the closest one is like a hour away