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Just diagnosed with infiltrating ductal carcinoma. My first thought after hearing the news was fear that my little girl (4 years old) wouldn't have a Mom to grow up with. My Dad died in a Navy accident two weeks before my 3rd birthday, so I'm a little sensitive about leaving a child behind.
I'm not afraid of surgery, of mastectomy, of treatment, of baldness--I'm even not afraid of death, but I'm so afraid of leaving my child without a mother.
We adopted our precious child after almost 5 years of trying to become parents. I married at a later age and became a mother at a later age. As a healthy person who's always looked younger than my years, active, eating well--I thought I had better chances of avoiding breast cancer. But life is life and I accept each day as it comes.
How do I go through this as a Mom of a preschooler? Anyone else in my shoes?
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Want to leave a comment? Login or Register now!I so hear you! I'm 40, and I have a 2 year old and a 5 month old, and like you, my main concern is living long enough to raise my little boys. And you and I are going to do just that!!! The silver lining of having a little one is they're not old enough to worry about you, so your preschooler will probably take a lot of what she sees in stride as long as you present what you're going through in a matter-of-fact manner. Keep reminding her that you need to do this to get better. We've been telling my 2-year old that I have to go to the doctor again because of my "owie" (I'm 5 days post-op/single mastectomy), but that I'm getting better, and over time, I'll be all better and able to pick him up and play with him just like normal. So far, it's working out pretty well. You'll probably have to give your little girl a little more info since she's older, but you'll know what to do. Trust those maternal instincts! :D Blessings to you and your family.
Judy
Hi, Kathy. I so hear you! I'm 40, and I have a 2 year old and a 5 month old, and like you, my main concern is living long enough to raise my little boys. And you and I are going to do just that!!! The silver lining of having a little one is they're not old enough to worry about you, so your preschooler will probably take a lot of what she sees in stride as long as you present what you're going through in a matter-of-fact manner. Keep reminding her that you need to do this to get better. We've been telling my 2-year old that I have to go to the doctor again because of my "owie" (I'm 5 days post-op/single mastectomy), but that I'm getting better, and over time, I'll be all better and able to pick him up and play with him just like normal. So far, it's working out pretty well. You'll probably have to give your little girl a little more info since she's older, but you'll know what to do. Trust those maternal instincts! :D Blessings to you and your family. Judy
My name is LauraLea and I am 41 and my youngest with be 4 on May 19th. My first thought was about my children also. I have a 14 year old girl too. I have stage 1 TIC NO MO. They best thing I can say is try to be strong and positive especially for them. We don't talk about death but talk about the treatments and what I will be going through and that I will not feel good.
We have to hope that they have advanced enough in this process that we have great chances of be survivors for years to come.
Take Care.Hi Kathy, My name is LauraLea and I am 41 and my youngest with be 4 on May 19th. My first thought was about my children also. I have a 14 year old girl too. I have stage 1 TIC NO MO. They best thing I can say is try to be strong and positive especially for them. We don't talk about death but talk about the treatments and what I will be going through and that I will not feel good. We have to hope that they have advanced enough in this process that we have great chances of be survivors for years to come. Take Care.