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by Ros on 4/25/2008 at 9:01 amin category Treatment

Okay. I knew I was going to lose my hair. So, why is this so hard on me? I think it was worse than losing a breast. I do not like my wig so I am wearing a scarf with a ballcap on top. Everyone says it's cute, but it has really been hard. I have been so strong and upbeat, but this was a definite setback for me. I guess because it's so visual, although I've never been a vain person. It just seems so cruel in a way. I'm not blaming God (he is the one carrying me thru this). It has suddenly occurred to me just how evil cancer is. Any thoughts/advice on how to get thru this period.
Rosemary

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I am 1 year out and my hair has started growing back. It is so curly and thick. It was hard on me as well, but I had to just stay focused on getting better. I went through the same emotions when I had to look in the mirror. I promise it gets better and you get used to wearing the hats. I also got used to the stares from other people and started to look at my breast cancer as an adventure...one that was sure to make me a stronger person. Good luck...

by michellec on 6/4/2008 at 7:50 pm

I was recently diagnosed and I am more scared of loosing my hair than my breasts anyday!!! You are right, I think because it is so visual! I just know I will go into a deep depression when my hair starts falling out!
God Bless You! Good Luck to You! You are not alone.

by kim on 5/27/2008 at 3:30 pm

Everyone at work knows what's going on with me. All my friends and family know. However, I went out into public for the first time Saturday with no hair. I was wearing my scarf and hat. I had NO idea how obvious it was that I have cancer. People left and right were commenting on my illness. I guess there's no hiding it now. Unless, of course, I wear that stupid wig.

by Ros on 4/28/2008 at 8:23 am

My goodness!I know what you are feeling. It's the same for me!! I never realized how attached I was to me hair until I discovered that it was no longer attached to me! I am a school teacher. I agree that it is no longer easy to deny that I have an illness with my bald head. I can't look at my scalp at all without crying my eyes out!! I dont consider myself vain either. Reading others posts comforts me.

by Lauraleigh on 4/26/2008 at 11:53 pm

I commented before but I have to add something. You know how people say stupid things?? Well, a bunch of my gym friends got together for lunch 2 weeks ago and I wore my wig for the first time. Most of them said they liked it, you know, the usual it doesn't even look like a wig etc. Then the last gal came in and said. "Oh Mary, I love it, it's so much better than your usual hairdo!!!"" What the ****? Some friend huh!!!

by Mary6204 on 4/25/2008 at 10:10 pm

Thank you all. It really helps to know others are going thru what I am. I really wish you weren't, but I don't feel so alone in this. And when people say "you look cute" it just makes me feel like they are pitying me and trying to make me feel better. I'm sure they mean well and I really don't know what I prefer to hear. I guess I just wish things were normal. One day we will all feel normal again, right?

by Ros on 4/25/2008 at 9:17 pm

My exact thoughts! Losing my hair was almost as bad as the side effects from the chemo. I too knew it would be hard, just didn't realize how hard. I NEVER looked at myself in the mirror or touched my hair, it was too much. I wore a wig to church and to work and hats/scarfs the rest of the time, or nothing when I was home. Don't you just want to slap them when they say you "look cute", I did not like that. I'm sure they mean well, but I knew I didn't look cute nor did I want to hear it. Time will pass, even though it seems very slowly. I had my last chemo 10-24-07, not much hair at Christmas but starting to come in enough that I actually look like I have a hair-do - biggest thing you can do is not to allow your self to feel guilty that it's so hard on you, it is and that's just a fact - best to you, Lori

by Lori on 4/25/2008 at 4:48 pm

It's a killing thing.

Big girls do cry...I found out the hard way.

A friend who knows me well said, "You can no longer pretend that nothing is happening. That bald head is an outward sign that cannot be ignored."

Gentle hugs.

Tammy Lou

by TammyLou on 4/25/2008 at 1:44 pm

Oh Rosemary, I'm sorry it's so hard on you. I'm a couple of weeks ahead of you. I think I agonized over it so hard before it happened that I'm actually handling it pretty well. I had my daughter shave my head 2 days ago. I still had a lot of hair left, but it was dull, thin and everywhere. On the pillow, in my mouth, and everytime I took off a scarf I had to go over it with a lint brush.

You'll get used to it. I think now I'm more determined to get through this. I'm counting the days for hair again. It is pretty scary when you think about putting somethine in your body that so horrible it makes your hair fall out!!!!

But it's happened to many before and unfortunately it will happen to many more. I just look forward to the end and growing a new head of, from what I hear from most, curly thick hair. In the mean time, I have 2 wigs and I can't stand either one of them. This morning I got into headcovers.com and found they have a few Henry Margu wigs clearanced out at $60.00. I found one I had my eye on ealier in the color I want which was normally $245.00. It's such a great savings I don't mind trying another one. After all I'm the only who won't have hair for several months so I need to find one that I'm comfortable with. Hope things get easier for you. God bless, Mary

by Mary6204 on 4/25/2008 at 11:03 am

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